One of the hardest painful legal experiences for any father is going through the Family Law Courts to gain access to their kids, is how the law suggest one thing in regards, child rights to a mother and father, and what ends up becoming the reality.
The law is unkind and unfair, to many fathers who just want to be a father to their kids, but the pain of dealing with strangers in the legal system, who have the final say if a deserving father can be a father to his own kids is again unfair when it is in the favour of a child's mother who has issues with her baby father.
Many children experts who are employed to assist Family Court Judges do not always realise how shoddy and biased many of their reports are, sometimes due to the overburden of many family court systems, in aiding a Family Courts Judges to make decisions unlike “The Judgment of Solomon” 1 Kings 3:16-28 New International Version (NIV) a Bible story from the Hebrew Bible in which King Solomon of Israel ruled wisely between two women both claiming to be the mother of a child.
That is not always in the interest of certain kids when a father is excluded from a child's life.
Many children welfare reports done by court-appointed experts such as by a children social workers or by Cafcass, when they are being read out in court about a child's feeling of rejection of his father, it is like someone touching you in the eyeball, or pouring hot water on your body it really hurts, many court officials do not always know or want to understand how hurtful such rejections by a child can be to a father who is fighting to see or have access to his kids.
A father who has spent XYZ in emotional time as well as real time including money in fighting for his rights to be a father to his kids, and then he learns that after his kids have been interviewed by a family court welfare social worker or by Cafcass, that out of the mouth of innocent kids, words have rolled out of a child that they do not want to be with their father, or even to see them for this reason or that reason.
The words these kids use are sometimes words that are not normally known to them or their age group, they are well practiced or implied by the resident parent, like a dripping tap slowly being absorbed by a spongy mind of a child, or the child may feel that they have to be loyal to the resident parents, because they have primary care over them.
The emotional damage of rejection, can leave an emotional scar on some fathers, sadly it has the ability to further damage a child's relationship with a father, if the words of a child are continually reinforced by a mother even if the child does not know what they are doing and yet rubber stamped by the Family Courts.
Many Family Law Courts and Children experts are well aware of the behaviour of many mothers who do not want their kids to have a relationship with their fathers under the modern heading of Parental Alienation Syndrome, but they chose not question a child any further once their tick boxes have been ticked, when interviewing has been completed.
Leaving a father and his legal team, if any to find fault in a family court report, knowing that it is not always easy to prove Parental Alienation Syndrome and putting pressure on the kids you love so much, that you want to be a father to, may also be looked on, as being unkind to them in having to choose between pleasing a mother who they live with and their birth father.
Parental Alienation Syndrome may be defined simply as a resident parent or whoever has custody of a child basically, brainwashing a child against his or her birth father for their own selfish gains which for many is a form of child abuse.
For the many success stories about a father being reunited with his kids, even if it is just limited access, they are still very small in comparison to those who may have to wait on their kids coming of age, to either have a mind of their own of independence or to be free of the influences of the guilty parent of Parental Alienation Syndrome.